Korean women and dating
Many foreigners choose to leave after a taste of Korea and that makes locals conclude that foreigners aren’t in Korea for the long term.Many Korean women don’t want to get emotionally involved with a foreigner because somewhere in their mind, they figure that the foreigner will leave sooner or later. Are you planning on making Korea a place to live in? If you’ve just come to Korea, then don’t worry about this question.You also have to understand and accept that the other person has other values and beliefs too!For Korean women, they hold values and beliefs that their society and culture have given them ever since they were little girls. I’ve been living in South Korea for more than 3 years, going on dozens of dates and then dating many Korean women not because I wanted to, but because of I had no other choice: I’m a foreigner. I’ve read books about the country, am learning the language, and have helped both foreigners and Koreans with their dating lives. In fact it can be downright frustrating no matter how much you love each other!For one thing, many Korean women have the fears that I’ve talked about earlier.You also need to understand that in general Korean society tends to value: – harmony more than justice – the group more than the individual – conformity more than independence – silence more than sound – not being seen as wrong more than being right – social status more than the person who has it These differences in values are what frustrates foreigners the most both in sexual and non-sexual relationships (you can read more about Korean dating values by clicking on the link.) If you plan on coming to Korea and what to date Korean women, you need to understand that in most cases, what they value and seek out of a relationship is different than what you might expect from your home country…radically different!
Not to mention the barrage of questions they’ll be getting such as “Is he just another English Teacher? If you’re in Korea, you’ll have to accept the fact that some old man (adjoshi) might chase you down , yelling obscenities at your girlfriend just because she is with you.
I personally believe that if you’re not planning on staying here for more than a year, then just have fun and enjoy your time here (just don’t lie to the women you’re with! If you’re like me, and you’re seriously considering getting involved with a Korean woman, then understand the obstacles and roadblocks you’ll facing and start looking for that diamond in the rough! In fact I believe that if you’re willing to accept these facts (with an emphasis on “accept”) you can find ways around it.
Sure, my experience is that of a typical guy in his late-twenties living in Seoul. Many people have and are both in happy relationships and happily married in Korea.
On top of that, you’re going to have communication barriers beyond just language.
Finally, you need to ask yourself how long you plan on living in Korea and if it’s worth it at all! When it comes to relationships, the only difference between dating in North Korea and South Korea is that both countries have different governments (Not that I’ve tried anything in North Korea!Their bodies might be back in Korea, but their minds and imagination is still overseas. Now with an influx of foreign foods, goods, and people, both men and women are “sampling” foreigners to satisfy their curiosity. Many times I have had women leave our relationship simply because they never saw it as anything serious anyway (Not that there’s anything really wrong with that.) Korean women are starting to explore their sexuality (which is great news) but they would not consider a serious relationship with a foreigner because of the reasons I talk about here.