My boss dating employee
It will be good for your career if it works out and you end up in partnership but while there is a power difference there are likely to be problems.
It can damage your prospects – this is the case whether the relationship is successful or not.
The danger is the roles will get blurred and either your work or personal life could suffer – having said that, some people thrive on having so much contact.
It will be good for your career – unfortunately even if this isn’t your motivation other people may view a relationship with the boss as a means to an end – a step up the career ladder rather than arising out of genuine attraction and affection.
Bad references – if the relationship doesn’t work out how would you feel about going back and asking your boss for a reference?
If your relationship caused a stir within the company even another manager might be reluctant to give you a reference and future employers might regard you with suspicion if they discover that you dated your boss.
One survey showed that 56% of HR executives feel that under no circumstances should a boss ever date a direct report.
While there is no doubt it is a natural phenomenon – to fall for the boss – it has a whole host of potential complications, more so than dating a colleague on the same level as you.
Once you are established in a new company you will be free to pursue an open, honest relationship with your former boss without any risk of jeopardising either of your careers. – remember a) maintain a professional standard in your work no matter how strong your feelings are – this will help avoid you getting into trouble with the company, b) be discreet and never discuss the details of your dates with other work colleagues, c) don’t use your expense accounts for dates or use the in-house email systems for personal correspondence, d) don’t conduct your relationship on company time.
Two exclusive surveys show that HR execs aren't doing what it takes to ensure that boss/subordinate dating doesn't result in costly, unnecessary sexual harassment lawsuits.
This can work the other way too and they think that you only work as hard as you do because you want to impress the boss.
Company policy – Some companies actually have a policy to deter relationships between bosses and workers from arising and you may both find yourself on the receiving end of disciplinary procedures if your relationship comes to light.
Given the current job market it is a good idea to check the company’s policy and put the welfare of your career and position ahead of any feelings you have for one another unless you are sure they are serious.