Relationship advice dating for four years

12-Jan-2016 13:10

I have been dating this one guy for about two years now, off and on.

When we first started dating, he chased after me and took me out to expensive dinners and such.

I would say it’s reasonable to expect that a guy will not totally invest in a relationship with a woman who’s said that she doesn’t want a relationship.I realize you are asking me the question of whether or not I think something is there and if it could work.And I want to make clear that I cannot answer that question and I don’t think anyone can… I still wouldn’t be able to tell you, nor could anyone else.We don’t break up or anything we just loose touch and then reconnect somehow. I feel bad because I feel that I’m giving him an ultimatum.

His friends have made comments to my friends like “they are probably gonna end up together.” Does that seem like that he talks about me to his friends? First off, you say that you fall out of contact with him and then somehow you reconnect. You are part of what’s happening every step of the way, so when you fall out of touch both of you are responsible for that.

It’s not unreasonable for a guy to want more time before having a discussion when he doesn’t feel like he knows the woman as deeply as he’d like. I would have to assume you two know each other well and know the nature of your relationship.